Marija Sviličić
Thinking about friendship on social networks
LOVE AS A GIFT
(Thinking about friendship on social networks)
Looking at this marveles video about the beauty, and the relationships created in nature, I realise how everything is simple, and without any complications – it is created, and has it’s birth and death, contrary to us people.
Recently I’ve read a nice taught – „Love hurts only if we expect something from it“.
I’ve already wrote that it is we, who are classifying and dividing love, and that is, in fact, always only a feeling. It is only depth and the power of this feeling which was arosen in us, that is important. Any way, again it is only our own subjective impression. Even when it happens that two souls and bodies meet each other, and merge in one unity, (which is actualy wonderful), again it is our expectations, that are interrupting this harmony...Why? We expect longevity of our relationship and emotions. If it doesn’t occure (happen), we are lost in suffering. Love which was shining, and was filling our whole life with light, now be reverted into darkness, angriness, jelousy, and even into hatred. And all that happens because we are not living in the present moment, but are creating our future in advance. That is the reason why we are lost in disharmony of expectation – but that is not the case in the nature.
If we shold be more aware, and if we should accept that in fact love is a big gift, and that it is in fact a big fortune that we met it, felt it, experienced it – we would be much happier. It is feelings that give us meaning in our life, otherwise we would be as as an empty wessel laying somewhwrw on the shelf.
I am also thinking about the friendships in, and about this virtual world itself. And again, our expectation occure (happen). We think and feel that we met some akin and close soul, but again it is only our own subjective feeling which drives us into delusion. We forget that our figures are in some way fantasised and embelished, because we want to present ourselves in the most beautyfool light. It is not something bad anyway. Everybody want respect, simpathy and recognition (appreciation) of his (her) creative favours... But, the mistake is, that falling into the trap of this virtual world, little by little we loose the connection with reality, because it is easier to live in that way, than in the real world. I would say that the eternal fight about existence, and unnecessary fears which are presented to us from all the sides, brought us to that situation. Less and less we are laughing and enjoying. Less and less we hug each other, and speak soft words. And so we come to the point that we are all in need of gentlness and hug, even if it happen virtualy. Some close contacts are formed, and even some feelings come up. But, any way, reality has something to say here. Some of the friends who became dear to you – simply dissapears. Leave his (her) empty profile, or leave it on waiting or pause. Or, some nasty hacker destroys your computer, an everything dissapears without any trace. From this reasons, we don’t need to mourne, and feel abandoned, in trying to find something which doesn’t exist. We have to comprehend that it was only one short lightning of beautiful feelings, and that we were in that particular moment in need of that person, which was assigned (alloted) to us. We didn’t loose anything, on the contrary we gained something. I, myself personaly experienced that. One dear friend, with his art, animated and inspired me, to draw and write more. That means that the virtual world can be good to, until we don't identify it with the real world, and until it does't become our opsession.
In trying to find that which doesn't exist, we loose all that beautiful, spontanies and real in this life, which is given to us as a big gift, which we have to love and respect.
Author Marija Sviličić