Angels Celebrate Christine's Next Step (2016) Dibujo por Edwin Loftus

Christine and her boyfriend are engaging in enjoying sex, as they have a number of times before. Chris has previously included fellatio in foreplay, but never made it her whole approach. This time, she has decided to see if she can stick with it until her partner ejaculates. Sensing that she has evolved to a selfless level, dedicating her attention to his pleasure as a gift of love, not focusing on her own gratification, angels have gathered to encourage her.
A number of times, after receiving such attention, the woman I was with exclaimed with a happy affect, things like; "I've never done that before!", appearing to take pleasure in having achieved something she took pride in, (and from my perspective, much deserved pride).
A relationship is built on mutual satisfaction. But it can also include selfless giving, and that includes in the realm of sexuality. Frequently, as relationships evolve, the partners will reach states in which their interests in sex are not equal. This may indicate that the relationship is not going to last, but it can also be simply that relationships are interactions of individuals and individuals don't lose their individuality simply because they are in a relationship. When this happens, generosity, particularly regarding sex, but in every element of the relationship can make a tremendous difference in whether the relationship lasts. I say, "particularly regarding sex" because sexual attractiveness is one of the more transitory elements in a relationship. All of us tend to become less physically attractive over time and less able to provide 'the excitement of novelty'. So just as there is pressure to have children before that potential is lost, there is pressure to experience the joys of sex, (and many other physical activities), while one is young and has the chance. Denying a more sexually interested partner sex because the other one doesn't feel like it, is an invitation for them to succumb to temptation elsewhere and that can threaten the relationship. At the beginning of a relationship, this potential should be recognized and guarded against by establishing a dedication to finding ways to keep your mate happy, even when your own pleasure is not in play.
There are many strategies for this; fidelity holidays, safe approaches to introducing fresh elements, (like 'Swingers Clubs' and casual threesomes), scheduled 'sex nights', sex in strange places and unusual circumstances, permission grants for relationships outside of the primary relationship, vacations from each other and vacations with each other, and more, including sex-servicing of one's partner, even when you don't feel like it.
The question to answer is, Is your relationship worth the effort?

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